Understand Yourself Under Stress

When we feel ourselves closing off and retreating from life, when we feel ourselves holding ourselves back, we must search for the reason why. For when we see and understand this, we are all the more prepared to deal with it. Retreating is our attempt at not only hiding from reality, but stepping aside from the issue at hand. We are trying to remove ourselves from life and from the problem. But of course this doesn’t help us, it doesn’t solve anything. It only serves to make us feel worse in the end. The feeling of closing ourselves off is something we have all felt at some time in our life. When we feel overwhelmed and unable to cope, we withdraw into what is comfortable, into what is controllable in our lives. This is our attempt at making ourselves feel better. We are attempting to bring back what we feel we have lost by regaining control over our lives on a very small and protected scale. We block out the world around us so that we can manage to once again feel okay, safe, and protected. This happens for many reasons. Stress, relationships, emotional or physical problems, the list is endless. It is our way of coping with what is happening by essentially hiding from it. When we close ourselves off, we find it only gets worse. Our plan was to feel safer and in control. But in the end, it leads us to feel like we have no control because we are no longer connected to our life, our friends, our daily activities, the things that gave us...

Shopping for Stress Relief

I am just one of all those individuals who can simply slide into a very bad state of mind. The tiniest misfortune or issue can head to a cloud of doom descending around me, a cloud which I discover is hard to drive away and eliminate. This report looks at ways in which we can combat back, to quickly get us back into a joyful manner. I used to be a rather delicate person, some would say that I was even terrified of my own shadow. I was constantly paranoid that folks were talking about me and joking behind my back. Even while my parents were fantastic, I was not a joyful child or a delightful teenager. I am so unfortunate you see or so I thought i was. I strolled around as if the entire world owed me something and would often feel very remorseful for myself. I was bullied at school, it was more mental bullying rather than anything actual physical. I am certain that most individuals also get bullied and cope with it. It would keep me in a state of panic and major depression. Looking back I have to say I was a bit of a wimp in actuality. I determined that enough was enough by my mid-twenties and chose it was time to strengthen up. I could not go on to live my life as I had been, as I would probably be deceased by the time I was fifty. I then went to a self-help method to maximize my all round self-confidence and self-esteem. I desired to learn more about stress-management, engaging with...

Handling the Stress of Rejection

Rejection can cause a particularly deep form of anger, because rejection seems to carry with it a heavy load: loss of self-esteem, and even of identity. Rejection can also result in depression. Sometimes it takes this shock of rejection to make you realize that you may have been asking for too little in life and to get moving to do something about it.  You may have settled for what you thought you could have, not what you really wanted. Or you may have convinced yourself that you really wanted a situation or a relationship in order to escape the uncomfortable ambiguity of not having a settled future. You have, in fact, made a poor choice. I first learned how to turn the anger of rejection into useful energy some years ago, after being rejected three times when I tried to transfer to a nearby state college from the community college.  As an older returning student, this rejection played into my fears that I was somehow inadequate. After the third rejection, I took a deep breath and took stock of skills and abilities, then said to myself, “How dare they reject me!  Why, I’m good.” I then shot off applications to two prestigious universities, one public and one private, that I would never have dared approach before – and got accepted at both, with scholarships. The energy of anger, racing through my body, shocked me into looking at the situation very differently.  And that energy forced me to take constructive action. You may feel that you’ve been rejected because you’re inferior in some way, but it may be that you...

Anxiety and Stress Relief With Meditation

Anxiety and stress relief with meditation not only gives you relief from anxiety and stress, but dramatically improves your health and your mind. Even though meditation has enjoyed a steady growth rate in western society in the last few years, most people are unaware of it’s tremendous value. Meditation will relieve your stress and anxiety as you practice, while teaching you to control your thoughts, stay focused and concentrate on what ever you chose. Meditation will bring you peace of mind beyond comparison by: quieting the constant mind chatter quieting anxiety and stress getting rid of disturbing thoughts getting rid of worries getting rid of negative thinking improving your concentration abilities First you will need to know something about this mysterious thing called meditation, and how to get started. Meditation is really only a practice of deliberate concentration, the ability to focus on one specific thing or task, without mental interruption.  Most people have a difficult time holding their attention on one subject for very long, without jumping from thought to thought. Very few people who first try meditation will continue the practice, because the term is too broad, covering too many methods and techniques.  But, when you practice this technique for anxiety and stress relief with meditation you will be able to feel your entire body and mind relaxing as tension falls away. This is a very simple and straight forward way to learn to meditate.  Even though it might not seem like standard meditation practice, this is a very good method to learn to meditate. Just find yourself a comfortable place to sit with a book.  Open...

Overcoming Your Monetary Crisis

One of my favorite rituals is to sit outside of Starbucks with my iced coffee in hand and mentally prepare for my workout. On Saturday I was doing just that when I over heard the conversation at the table next to me. The two young men at the next table over clearly worked at a fitness center. What caught my attention though was when one of the guys said to the other… “It’s because of the economy that we’re facing this crisis” The conversation went on to the topic of rent, then how people can’t afford training like they used to, and then how the gym is empty and no one is working out these days. Thankfully I was out of coffee by this point and was ready to leave so I didn’t have feel their negative energy any longer. Listen, I’ll be the first to tell you that the economy is not what it used to be. But neither is fashion. You don’t see people walking around with knee high socks or top hats these days. Things change. This is the NEW economy, and the folks who complain about it the most are usually the ones who were struggling in the “good old days” of the economy. While those two guys were complaining about the economy and what wasn’t working in their business, two Fit Body Boot Camps (fitness classes) and another gym opened in their neighborhood and those businesses are doing just fine. Yes the economy changed. But money didn’t just go away. In fact, like my buddy Frank Kern says: the money just moved hands… it’...

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