Thriving Through Transition

Times of significant transition visit each and every one of us throughout the course of our lives, often many times over. Whether we are initiating a change in service of manifesting our vision or life is delivering a totally unexpected detour, our journeys are filled with experiences that ask us to let go of the old and allow space for something new. Given this reality, it serves us enormously well to be clear about what helps us to travel through the “in between place” with less stress and more ease. If you tend to feel trapped on an emotional roller coaster ride in the face of transition, I want you to know that there is another way. You absolutely have the capacity to be grounded in your life, no matter what the external circumstances may be. Furthermore, you don’t need to settle for just surviving or tolerating transition. You are meant to thrive. For support with embodying this energy, ponder the following tips. 1. Take generous care of yourself. Please note I said generous! Lavish self-care serves as a strong foundation for managing stress, and times of transition, even the most welcome ones, involve stress Therefore, try giving extra attention to the following self-care practices: proper sleep, nourishment and exercise; be patient and compassionate with yourself and others; ask for help when needed and allow others to support you; honor your feelings; soothe your body, mind and spirit with deep breathing, laughter and play. How do you do with pampering yourself? If you are noticing neglect in this area, what will it take for you to shift? 2. Design...

How To Challenge Your Belief

Treat your beliefs critically and search for contradictory evidence. By challenging your current beliefs about what is possible you will be able to release the brakes on some of the obstacles that have held you back from doing more, being more, and having more. Take a Good Look at Your Beliefs People rarely think about where their beliefs have come from. Over time, like a piece of human flypaper, you have picked up beliefs about yourself and your world and they have stuck to you throughout your life. Regardless of where they have come from, your beliefs drive everything you do. It is absolutely critical to your success in achieving your goals that you understand that getting what you want in life depends on what you believe about the possibility of achieving it. Whether it’s learning how to use a computer or how to swim, it’s never too late. Holding on to Your Beliefs Beliefs, theories, and opinions are what you use to understand and define the world around you. They make it possible to take things for granted, but can easily become prejudices that remain fixed despite contradictory evidence. In order to hold on to your limiting beliefs you will have filtered everything by one of three methods – deletion, distortion, or generalization – so that you can maintain your view of the world, the people in your life, and what is right and wrong. Deletion – When someone you usually see in a positive light does or says something that you regard as negative, you will probably delete this negative event from your memory because it doesn’t...

Sacrifice And Success

How far are you willing to go to succeed? Are you willing to change, or even alter your lifestyle? Are you willing to analyze yourself and try finding your weaknesses? Are you willing to take your dreams to the next level? Anything worth having in life is worth fighting for. I am not talking at all about knocking other people out of the way so you can literally climb over them. You need to focus on you, not others. The moment you start focusing on others, you start competing. Success is not a competition. If you do find you work better in a competitive mode, set harsh deadlines for you to achieve your own goals and compete with yourself. That is certainly what I do! The only time it is good to focus on others is when you are networking and building business alliances. I believe that by helping others to succeed, I will succeed even further. Notice I did not call this blog ‘Success and Sacrifice’. It does not work like that; first you sacrifice and then comes success. By sacrifice I am talking about buying audio book, books, training materials or heading to the library if you do not want to buy material. It takes sacrifice to listen to an audio book on the way to work in the morning instead of your favorite playlist on your iPod. It takes sacrifice to read a book on investing instead of watching your favorite T.V. program. But with great sacrifice comes great reward. If you want to sacrifice a little, you will start to see some progress in your...

Focus Your Mind On Change

One of the most common reasons that people don’t get to accomplish their goals is that we tend to get distracted, and we lose track of important things that need to be done consistently in order to move forward towards our goals. Maybe you made a perfectly realistic goal and thought out every step, but without actually watching the progress toward your goal and knowing how successful you are, most certainly you can get easily discouraged when the first serious obstacle gets in the way and you end up stopping progress toward your goal early. Goals are an amazing thing. Let’s say you want to start your own business, where do you start? The Internet is much better than, say, the library. Searching the Internet will reveal the goal you have just established as having played out a thousand times before. Read articles, blogs, and advice sites. You’ll see that there is a road you can follow toward reaching the goal you have set. I spent a long time trying to figure out how I could change careers. I finally realized that the key is to focus on the small and attainable goals. I didn’t look at the journey to my goal as a start line and a finish line, I looked at as a start line followed by an endless number of way points and then a finish line. This way of thinking has greatly helped change my life. There’s a French article about this: “(changer de vie)”. It’s very interesting. If you can tolerate reading French, reading it is well worth the time. A friend of mine...

How To Make Important Life Changes

If you’re like many of my clients, you may want to make big changes in your life – for example, a new career, more time with family or a healthier lifestyle – but you don’t know where to start, life gets in the way or you end up feeling stuck. So, what’s holding you back? Perhaps it’s procrastination, self-sabotage or fear of the unknown. Or maybe you start initiating change, but quickly fall back into an existing comfort zone. This “easy route” often leads to complacency and stagnation. How can you make lasting changes to enrich your life? Here are a few thoughts that I’ve picked up through coaching over the years: Slow Down – If you’re stressed out or operating at full steam all the time, it’s incredibly difficult to make any real, lasting change in any part of your life. So, your first step is to slow down and free up the mental and emotional space that’s needed. Decades of research point to the benefit of reflective activities that quiet fear, doubt and worry and allow you to be more energized, engaged and in the moment. For example, try carving out 10 minutes twice a day for a daily renewal ritual such as meditation, yoga, prayer, writing, listening to music, walking, painting, knitting, etc. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as it allows you to truly slow down, create space, and renew your energy – all necessary ingredients for change. Draft a Vision – Before you spend the time and energy that’s required to make a big change, take a step back and focus on...

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