Arguing is a way of giving reasons and persuading the other side of your point.
Couples, no matter how compatible they are, will argue from time to time. It’s quite natural, and can often be a part of the growth in the relationship provided that the disagreements are resolved to each partner’s satisfaction. The problem, however, is that more often times than not, the truth is withheld, and one or both partners never reach a resolution that they are happy with.
So think why do we always argue?
So, what are arguments really about, exactly? Regardless of the actual circumstances surrounding the argument, the true cause is almost always based on feeling as though your needs are not being taken seriously. See, when you think about it, everyone has certain rules about how they should be treated by those around them, especially by those that really love them. When one of these rules has been broken, we need to be reassured that the person realizes that what they did upset us, and that’s what the argument is really all about.
This concept of personal rules can be somewhat tricky, particularly in newer relationships. In the beginning, you don’t know your partner that well yet, and you won’t know what your partner’s rules are. If you do break one of his/her “rules,” they’ll likely not even let you know simply because they tend to overlook it to avoid creating a bad impression of themselves.
Now, if arguments are bound to happen, then how do you go about resolving differences to the satisfaction of your partner and yourself? Well, you have to start by being totally honest. You need to tell the truth. For example, let’s say you got in an argument about your partner being late for a date. You get upset, and tell him “if you really loved me, you’d be here on time.” Your partner, on the other hand, might react by saying “if you really loved, then you would be more understanding that I can’t always be perfectly on time.”